Five Powerful Ways Abusive Narcissists Get Inside Your Head

Self-Care Haven by Shahida Arabi

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Watch out for these signs when you’re dating someone or in a relationship. Malignant narcissists and abusers with antisocial traits are often quite charming, so it’s easy to dismiss red flags in the beginning.

1. The Idealization-Devaluation-Discard Phase

Narcissists and those with antisocial traits tend to subject romantic partners through three phases within a relationship. The idealization phase (which often happens most strongly during the early stages of dating or a relationship) consists of putting you on a pedestal, making you the center of his/her world, being in contact with you frequently, and showering you with flattery and praise. You are convinced that the narcissist can’t live without you and that you’ve met your soulmate. Be wary of: constant texting, shallow flattery and wanting to be around you at all times. This is how most victims get sucked in: they are tired of the “games” people play with each…

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We Are All Narcissists

Beyond Highbrow - Robert Lindsay

fMRI scans show that we’re most comfortable looking at faces similar to our own.

As yo can see, we are always in love with ourselves. Even when we are in love with other people, we are really in love with ourselves.

In my opinion, everyone is somewhat narcissistic. It’s adaptive to a certain degree, especially among males. It’s only when it starts getting out of control that it is pathological.

Visualize a scale from 0-100. A score of 1 is the least narcissistic, most ashamed, guilty, self-effacing, self-denying, masochistic doormat around.

Anything above 50 and you are starting to get into the “narcissistic without being pathological” folks, which is where a lot of males are anyway, and it’s definitely where I am. Here you find a lot of folks, mostly males, who are vain, conceited, self-centered and sometimes arrogant. They are friendly people, but people who get close to them…

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