Breaking Your Addiction to the Narcissist – The Betty Ford Approach

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You’ve hit rock bottom.

After being immersed in verbal abuse, degradation, and going through the abuse cycle more times than the moon orbits the earth in a year, you finally realize the Narcissist will never change.

You’ve initiated an attempt at No Contact and tell yourself it’s over this time.  The phone rings.   It’s them, but you don’t answer it.  They leave a voice mail.  You start to hit the delete button, but then you think,Let’s just see what they have to say.

No Contact goes flying out the window as the Narcissist’s voice gives you a high.  Your heart melts with overwhelming pleasure as the words “Baby” and “I miss you” play on the recording.  Your resolve is gone and you wait for the Narcissist to come over, as they said they would in the voice mail…meanwhile, you enter into a state of euphoria.

You ride the illusion of feeling better about yourself and…

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Emotional abuse and covert narcissism

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Emotionally Distant

Covert narcissism (or any covert, cluster B personality disorder) is very difficult to put your finger on. Many people waste years of their lives with covert narcissists trying to figure out what the heck is going on. Once they discover that it could be covert narcissism, they waste further time questioning if it’s really the case or not.

The reason for this is that many of us do not have clear in our minds what abuse is. We often think of abuse as only being physical and don’t clearly define what emotional abuse is. On top of this, covert narcissists are very good at covering up emotional abuse, denying that they are being emotionally abusive and actually projecting it on to you to the point where you doubt your own instincts and start to believe that it is you who has the problem.

Covert emotional abuse is very real and…

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